Love life, interesting. I now have a love interest (friends tempted to be more, much more) in A2, one in TC who is warming up quickly enough -- that one I need to be careful about having any rebound stuff happening, as this is the relationship that my metaphysicians think is "THE ONE", and now I have a local strong interest as well.
That last one I think is going to be fun. Not quite 10 years younger. Very whole, a little extra meat but great personality. Instant attraction on our first date. I don't see it terribly likely to be long-term, but I think it's going to be a really nice involvement. [could not recall who this referred to until I went back to old email. This was a reference to a lady from law enforcement who got wayyy too friendly, too soon. Deep kisses in the karaoke bar on the 2nd or 3rd date, plus an "interest" in having me come over to install an icemaker in her refrigerator.... made the "crazy" alarms go off. I dropped her after about 4 or 5 dates. ]
Meanwhile the EX is getting wonky about the disposition of the house. I think she MAY be suspicious that I'm buying something else (her son is probably hinting that to her). SHE isn't giving ME much info on her intentions, and I continue to manage the interactions between us very very carefully. Like this:
Her: Also, do you still intend to move back here once I'm gone?
ME: Not really, and I certainly do not plan to move back permanently
when that day comes.
Her: I guess I don't even know what this means. What do you intend to do with this house?
ME: Prepare it for sale and sell it -- at least that is the most likely.
ME: Not really, and I certainly do not plan to move back permanently
when that day comes.
Her: I guess I don't even know what this means. What do you intend to do with this house?
ME: Prepare it for sale and sell it -- at least that is the most likely.
She's going to be really unhappy when it finally hits that I've bought my own place, will move my six foot grand piano, and that her options on OUR real estate just got lots more limited -- mostly due to her nastiness and stubbornness and ragefulness.
Work-wise, I have some challenges -- I anticipate weathering them, but things are a little rough.
My A2 friend showed some of the behaviors last night that apparently she's had in the past put men off. She got really "out there" very assertive, lots of "you should" advise, way more energetic about my business than was useful for me at 10:00 at night when I'm trying to motor down. On and on about "those people are CALLING YOU OUT AND YOU HAVE TO DISH IS BACK. NO ONE CALLS ME OUT AND GETS AWAY WITH IT...." etc, etc.
I finally had to get a bit firm with her to back her off. I really needed more calm supportive conversation.
As I backed her off some, then she started in about how she's "used to people finding her a bit too much a lot of the time, but that's ok.... that's just who I am". etc.
I addressed that briefly. I don't think she really understood. And, she clearly doesn't understand how unwelcome men find unsolicited advice!!
I'm sure we'll talk today or tonight. It will be interesting to see if she says anything about last night's interchange. I won't. I will simply make note of it and learn from it. Now I know a bit more about her and her style. What that means for whatever we are headed for in this universe, we'll just have to see.....
It puts me off a little, but nothing I can't get over or otherwise put aside.
