Last night after a walk I went and talked to the neighbor who moved in a few months back. My age exactly. Fairly attractive but hobbled up badly with a back problem. She has been working very hard to turn on her lawn into beautiful shrubbery and tree garden space. I've made a point to be careful not to engage too often but enough to be friendly and neighborly. Well, B was in a strange headspace with a headache and several drinks. I found out this morning that she had a bad reaction to my engaging with the neighbor. I could tell she was bothered about something last night but left it alone. When she was engaging with me this morning about the feelings she had she appreciated that I let it be. She said she didn't respond to my asking if something was wrong because she was afraid with her headache and drinks that we have a big fight which has happened before. She went to bed early pretty tired and that was that for now.
This morning she asked if we could talk about something and she went on to explain why she didn't say anything more last night which was good. She said at first she thought she felt jealousy. But then she realized what she was feeling was insecurity. And that's really all she wanted to say about it was that she had recognized the feeling and she knows there's not much reason to be feeling that way. I did of course again reassure her that I have no interest in getting involved with that neighbor other than just being friendly as a neighbor.
I did tell her that we knew from the start of finding out that is 67-year-old single woman who's going to become our neighbor B would struggle with that it's on surprising that she still sometimes feels insecure considering. It's clear she'll never be completely over the beginning of our relationship where it was a little triangular with me dating her and A2. Best I can do is not overreact when she has these feelings. I know it's good that she's expressed herself and acknowledged it. Will leave it go with that.
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