"I've been trying to engage with you for 3 days"

... and you didn't even seem to notice...." "I guess that tells me just where I fall in the hierarchy"

was one of the things she said last night in the middle of the night (a.m.)

[This interaction made it a bit plainer what was really going on -- the classic "rejection" feeling of a BPD person, however unaware the partner may have been of the rejecting remarks or actions....]

"What were you doing ?"

"well, I didn't HAVE to invite you to the Harry Potter movie. I didn't HAVE to go out with you for a drink after. I didn't HAVE to try and cuddle with you last night (and have you nearly scoot off the bed....) [hmmm, I don't have much recollection of that, other than some slight physical closeness at some point that barely registered.... and, well, I was ASLEEP. I can't control my subconscious reactions.... I'm not consciously hostile to her physical presence. And, well, this isn't the FIRST TIME she's claimed I subliminally avoided being "close"]

"I didn't HAVE to offer you a hotel key for the pool this weekend while your granddaughter is visiting you....."

I pret