M's middle of the night emails

[my comments in brackets]


Date: Mon, 30 Jul 2007 01:36:22 -0400
Subject: good day

Remember this...... always.....

Or, perhaps, I should fill in a bit first. Last Saturday you laid out YOUR plans for this weekend. May I remind you that none of your scenarios remotely included me and your parents staying here together while you booked off to your meetings, sessions, imporant hobnobbing and social events...... So, how did that happen? I think that when it became clear to you that you had uninvited me, you should have packed up your parents and hauled them off
[that was not something M asked of me, either]
with you ... since that was your original plan, right? Or, would that have also interfered with your extracurricular activities, too? [ah.... the periodic accusation of "other women". She just can't seem to NOT go there eventually]

With the price of gas, I find it insane to propose that I am "welcome" as long as we drive separately. (By the way, if we have suddenly become independently wealthy, you have neglected to share that info with me, but since you haven't indicated thus I have to assume that we do still live in the "REAL" world where one has to pay one's own way....) [200 mile round trip. 8 gallons of gas. $25 for M's peace of mind or compared to the price of yet another hotel room for M or for the folks.... hmmm]

Never mind that I woke up after only a couple hours of sleep and have had a temp of 100 to 101 all day (not feeling like I want to make a 2 hour drive anywhere especially to somewhere I clearly was not wanted). [again, reading far more meaning into the words than she should have] Besides, after driving all over hell's half acre earlier this year, I'm not so much up for more solo road trips. I'm sure you don't understand that since you haven't ever been in a position to have to do that sort of thing yourself, therefore it probably just doesn't exist.

So.... to say this this day has not been one of my favorite days to have lived is to put it mildly.

Remember this...... always.....

I WILL NEVER EVER SPEND TIME IN MY HOUSE WITH Y0UR PARENTS WHEN YOU ARE NOT HERE. Got it?

This has been one of the most excruciatingly emotionally painful days in my entire life -- since your mother is everywhere (like the entire house belongs to her) it is extremely hard to stay out of her way and it is extremely clear that you don't want me around you in Bay City.... Tough times.

PS. Just so you know, I was really looking forward to these few days in Bay City as a respite from the past couple of months. [yeah, I figured it was all about "reconnecting" and getting closer, etc, etc.... Of course, that means I'd have to just forget all the stuff from the last few years -- while M can continue to remember and dredge up as she likes.... that's fair...] I'm pretty sure I do not like the fact that you took that away from me.

Enjoy your air conditioned comfort. As it was last your, it is going to be in the mid to upper 90s here Tues, Wed and maybe Thurs (so you will probably want to take your time getting home) and the upper 80s to low 90s through the weekend. THANKS SO MUCH.

Sincerely hope you thoroughly enjoy yourself and have the best ever conference.