what an evening she can make it

Well, what an awful evening she's made this. No surprise.

I came home, and admittedly, I didn't call her today -- didn't take a chance on my mood getting sour or mixing negatively with her over the phone. Frankly, she didn't seem all that warm and caring when I left this a.m.....

Got home, went out to the deck BEFORE changing clothes and asked nicey, "What did you do with yourself today?"

"Just watered plants....."

Shortly thereafter, keeping in mind her sinus infection and her offense that I "asked nothing about my Dr appointment yesterday" per her note left last night....

I said, "How are you feeling?"

"Depressed" she said emphatically. Later, she related
"I didn't get out of bed and shower until 3:00 today"

Later, after a little food, she asked, "So what is going on?"

(she feels I'm ignoring / avoiding her. Avoiding -- maybe -- mostly trying to avoid setting anything off -- as if that's possible with a BP person....)

Degenerated from there. She kept drinking. Got more upset. More reruns of past events and feelings. Several attempts by me to stop having the negative interaction.

When she was really out of control, I finally said I had to leave if she didn't stop. She threatened to change the locks. "It's OVER if you leave...." "You can make that threat...."

Anyway, a further round (fortunately I had limited myself to 2 beers), and she was pissed to high heaven again -- "threw" me out of the bedroom, so to speak. "Sleep downstairs. THIS is MY room tonight."

She never did succeed in totally provoking me. She did come down and apologize and say, "You can sleep upstairs if you like... but don't complain about the light or the TV"

Wow, there's an offer.... So sad.

But, she finally settled down for the most part.