M had me really upset and bothered when yesterday she invited me to go to coffee and maybe to a local play.... Bothered me lots to have to deal with the aftermath if I turn her down, etc, etc....
Anyway, I did agree to have the coffee, because there were some conversations that have been put off a bit... But, I stopped and talked to another friend (lady, acquaintance) for some advice.
She really tore into me. Insisted that by trying to be kind, I was actually being mean. As someone else had told me, she insisted I needed to tell her unambiguously that I don't love her anymore, that I don't want see her, or go places with her.... and that I am no longer going to take her calls or return her voicemails, etc, etc. Yes, again, the good old "no contact rule" so familiar to us in the online support group.....
Anyway, I pretty much made up my mind to tell her that very thing at today's coffee....
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