things with A2

are most interesting. Apparently she has a different definition of "significant other" than I do. She means it more in a sense of a regular/dependable partner, but not necessarily completely exclusive, and apparently, most certainly not a meaning of "married but not legally".

That was a surprise.

She and I talked this weekend and both of us seem quite comfortable with seeing a great deal more of each other.... but she's really trying not to restrict me unduly (in her opinion). As such, she avows she's OK with my possible involvement (sexually, in particular) with others. That is, as long as safe sex practices are used... AND, that I NOT feel compelled to confess, etc. I asked what she'd want to know if something came along along the lines of a tryst or sexual involvement (casual dating is clearly not an issue whatsoever). Her answer was "zero". She doesn't grudge me, but she also doesn't want to know about it.... Interesting.

I THINK her motivation is to allow me enough latitude to get anything else "out of my system" or get experiences that I haven't had as yet. I think she'd like to be certain in some way for herself that if she and I progress, I'm not going to feel regretful at what I missed or such.

I told her that I actually had examined that idea a little, and that I was finding it interesting that since I've had the opportunity to pursue casual / recreational sex, I haven't found that of interest. I've tended to stick to my preference to get to know a woman. Sex.... I've had great sex in the past with M. As I told A2, there isn't anything that I feel like I've missed or might find with someone else. Truly, we tried anything and everything, except light bondage, that either of us had any interest in at all.

Will I find that again?? Not terribly likely. Do I feel OK with that? Sure. Sex with A2 is more conventional. I'd love to expand the horizons a bit, but it's not critical.