OMG, on and on

Well, I shouldn't be surprised.

As far as I know, ALL M had to eat today was a cup of yogurt. Oh, correction.... tomato juice this a.m. and tonight and she just munched a few almonds or something.

For some reason she got up and got real active today. Wore herself out.

Of course, this evening, the beer got started on.... which, on an empty stomach, soon served to loosen her bad feelings and her tongue.

So, off she went -- over the same negative territories. Over and over and over again.

My mom, my family....

"I told my T that I'll be history soon". (Why? askd the T? "Because when push comes to shove, he'll choose his family over me...."

No kidding. And, who would be doing the pushing and the shoving, I wonder.

She wouldn't let up no matter how gracefully I tried.

Demanded validation.... I can give her understanding and empathy -- but for her, validation means agreement with her viewpoint and her "hurt". I don't agree with many of her issues / roots of the issues -- so I cannot "validate" her POV.


I have managed to disengage without getting outraged, or having to threaten to leave the house....


Let's see... what else -- Oh....

M, "this comes at such a bad time. I was just feeling good about us again, and then all this baggage hits -- with your family visit...."

She just cannot see the reality she creates for herself. It is her pathology that "makes her made the house spotless". Hers that gets so completely tense over "your mother and how she (treats, views, etc) me." Hers that makes her completely ornery about all the commensurate issues of having my folks, or my family, about.

Not mine.

MY POV is that assuming no abuse patterns, and no outright in-law hostiity, everyone ought to just be able to get along.