Respect yes, trust no

Good observation from my online support group

Re: [WelcomeToOz] Do they deserve respect?


I agree with you..you cannot hate someone who is not totally conscious of
their actions. And everybody deserves respect..what they are not is
trustworthy. And again..you can't blame them for that..it is just a fact. They
can and will use any methods to get what they need at the moment. they are
disordered and the disorder itself is the cause of certain behavioral
tendencies. Not because they want it to be that way, but because it just is.
How many on here have confided things to your partners only for it to be used
against you every chance they get? This is one of the behaviors that is typical
to their disorder. They feel bad about themselves and so they will use this
stuff to make you feel bad too. Hence the saying..misery loves company. Plus I
do believe, this proves to themselves that they can't be that bad if you do bad
things too, or have had bad things happen to you. In their mind this gives them
relief from knowing that they aren't the only ones who are
messed up. It sucks but it is one of those things that they do.

Hate is a very strong word in my book. It is the worse
emotion for us so we use it to describe how intense we feel at the moment. But
do we truly hate them? No, I don't thinks so. We may truly hate what we are
going through..we may hate their behaviors..we may hate all sort of things about
what goes on, but we really can't hate the person.

Now about respect. IMO everybody deserves to be TREATED with respect. But I
guess that all depends on your own personal standards of conduct towards your
fellow man. Some people believe in "an eye for an eye" others believe in
forgiveness. I won't trust that person anymore, I can decide that I no longer
trust their opinion (respect) but that doesn't give me the right to be
disrespectful towards them. I by the way don't believe in an eye for eye. I do
believe that in the end we all get our just reward. I do believe that no bad
action goes unjudged by some higher being, and that "what goes around comes
around", but it won't be my hand. But I have a standard of what I consider to
be moral and ethical behavior. Again, you don't have to agree with me. This is
just my humble opinion on this matter.
BUT I won't trust them with anything that is important to me..and that is ME!