Shhhh... it's a secret

Or, the games they play....

Well, M is "secretly" on her way here. I had an elderly aunt die recently, services this Saturday.... and I think that might be the excuse for her unexpected showing....

Of course, there's also the "crazy" she's going over my not engaging with her and not being altogether open on where things stand between us (the FTF thing....)

So, here's the story and what I know at this point.

Early last evening, her son called me. "You didn't hear it from me.... but I thought you should have a heads-up that Mom might be on her way up here.... I got a text message from her that said something like, 'you might see me sooner than expected.'" He went on to say he didn't really know what she was doing / planning. But, he thought maybe she'd be on her way up here real soon.

Sidenote: my T, with me resisting the engagement, negative or otherwise, and with my being prepared to offer to talk about the relationship by phone if that's what M chooses.... predicted M would head up soon.... shortly after any such talk... the better to force some additional engagement. THIS bit, however is unexpected.

Anyway, the kid only gave me part of the story (no surprise, he's shady.... a liar's liar.)

I called M's sis, to let her know that maybe M was on her way, probably driving.... and therefore sis wouldn't have to drive by herself to Myrtle Beach later this month.... But, Sis says, "Oh... no, I can fill in some blanks for you..."

Turns out M had emailed Sis and told her she had booked a flight to come in Thursday night.... that I'd had an Aunt pass... not that she'd be invited to go to services... and well, her flight back was on Easter Sunday and if she needed a ride, could Sis give her one...

So, here's what I think is up. At a minimum, M is trying to make another "caring ploy" to show me how much she cares and can be supportive in a time of loss.... And, well, I would not be surprised if she tries to pin me down tomorrow on the relationship talk, FTF, that we've been needing to have.

I'm not thrilled. I have a cold. An infection and I need my rest. I don't need crazy disturbing me. But, as always, I'll be gracious... or, if needed, I'll lash out in the anger she seems so often to crave....