Afraid of your partner (msg from online support group)

From my online support group:

I don't think that's weird to feel afraid of your bp! It is normal
to fear being hurt. And MB you hit the nail on the head "what kind
of a relationship is that if you're actually scared of your partner?"
It is an unhealthy relationship! In my opinion, I think we all want
to be loved and accepted and cared about - and a bp can't do that for
us because they can only care about themselves; I think they have no
other way to live with themselves and what they've done to us but to
walk away (too much shame & guilt?)

We nons walked into a relationship with a person we THOUGHT was able
to reciprocate - and it wasn't until after they'd repeatedly hurt us
and we went so long without our emotional needs being met that we lost
ourselves in the process. NOW the journey for us nons is to recover
ourselves - find our way onto a path of healing, education (SWOE) and
rediscovery of our 'little child' so that we can approach life and
another partner (possibly) with a healthy, strong and overflowing with
love heart.

Here is a (HUG) for all who are hurting today....