BPD love? probably not

another astute observation posted on the online support group:

Love to a BPD is not an emotion or feeling, but is their playing a
role (mimicing) of what they have been taught or have seen to be
"love". The only emotion the BPD feels is a sense of elation that
their abandonment fears are quelled - but this elation is only
temporary, as once anything a non may do that may cause the BPD to
believe that abandonment may occur (for example, the non does not
agree with everything the BPD says), the BPD's elation will turn to
rage or detachment, and they will split. A holiday or job loss can
also cause the BPD to split and turn against the non. The BPD must
live in a very coddled world where nothing ever changes. They are
emotional infants. They are fakers, and cannot feel love; they exibit
loving traits to reel in another lover to keep the BPD from being
alone and facing their BPD internal emptiness. Components of love are
trust and respect - your BPD probably appeared to not trust or respect
you after the initial glow of elation/infatuation
faded. That's your answer. That was not love, but dependency on the
BPD's part. For you to ask this question means that you have
compromised your values, and settled for less than love. You have to
re-establish your own boundaries after you have been through the
torment of loving a BPD.