Color me frustrated but not surprised. As I posted here last week, I've moved out and into my own place. Predictable reactions from my STBX. I actually ended up early in the game having to have her picked up into protective custody and evaluated as far as mental illness and danger to herself by the community mental health people.
Since that "shock", she briefly turned around and we had a civil, even cordial weekend....
BUT, I've frankly made a point of NOT engaging in some of the "expected" behaviors and responses. For instance, yesterday I saw her or heard from her 3 times, all of which were civil enough, I think. The last contact was when she called to offer me the use of our jacuzzi tub at the house (I strained some muscles Sunday)... .which I thanked her for, and then proceeded NOT to do.
She, predictably, is trying to initiate / promote as much interaction and engagement with me as possible. I recognize the behaviors and am trying really hard to ONLY take care of vital business. (We own a house together and a business, so I may have no choice in some matters but to be in her neck of the woods, etc, etc).
While predictable, it is frustrating as hell!!
Today as been terribly tense. No surprise there. I was SUPPOSED to go over and mow the lawn and take some minor inventory. BUT, a friend called me last night and invited me to dinner tonight. Right now, I'd rather go where the SUPPORT is, rather than keep putting myself in jeopardy of either an argument or of hoovering.
I know many advocate having NO contact once you leave the relationship.... Well, while I'm trying to be as civil as I can be, she may rapidly force me to take a hard line.
Gee, wouldn't that be just too bad!!
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