The constant re-framing of reality

that a BPD person engages in is stunning. And hard to adjust to.

For instance, one M fell into the despair she's fallen into, she reframed the reason for her being here in FL, supposedly for the next month.

You see, her son had rented a condo, near the Gulf coast (Naples / Ft Meyer area) that he's not using, because he came "back home temporarily...." except, it's not so temporary after all. So, he's given notice here, but the place isn't being used for the next month+.

He and I BOTH had suggested, when M was feeling so distressed about life at our house (me too busy, 5 acres in the country too isolated, etc)) that she bring herself down here.

For me, I needed the break -- after all, I was right at the point of moving out of the house temporarily as it was.

So, at first, she made the arrangement to head here out of anger at me. Then, shifted her reality (like, shortly after the son said, "NO, he couldn't drive down here with her"). She played nice, cooed and such.... and I made the mistake of believing it would be OK to take a sudden week off to help her drive down and spend a few days together on vacation.

Naturally, she crashed. AND, NOW, the re-framing, off and on, is that I manipulated her to get her down here -- to be rid of her for a while.... yadayadayada.

From angry, to nice, to feeling taken advantage of. Breathtaking.