more of the same sad sack sh**

today. Worse than yesterday. Our "week together" before a month of separation, and she cannot get ahold of her negative feelings and turn them about.

I told her outright that it appears she's determined to leave things on a bad note... Too bad. I've tried to do otherwise. Thought she was trying, too.

But, she's had to plow the same ground over and over and over again. The bits about the crackers on Xmas day, the speech about leaving a few days later, on and on. She cannot / will not find emotional closure. Logic doesn't help.

Some things just will not change. Her negative nature is one. Her constant feeling of rejection and failure to measure up is another.

Nor will her tendency, deeply BPD, to reframe events and history.

Like the start of our relationship.

Of late, she's convinced herself that I seduced her from a stable, happy enough relationship. That I have used her to meet my unfilled sexual needs, etc, etc.

It's a huge, dramatic reframing. Actually, this one truly surprises me.... but, I suppose nothing really should