What do you think I should do with my hand?

says she a moment ago.

But, unfortunately, what she meant was, "What SHOULD I have done...."

which rotated right back to all the angst and trouble this visit has caused...
all the housecleaning that only she can do, to hear her say....

on and on.

Oh that she would actually report some of this behavior truthfully to her T.

and have a fully honest relationship with her T.


but I digress...

She's clearly sore (see next message -- she remarked about this in her stream of negativity as she left the house) that I said at the start of this last 3 weeks that it was her decision to quit physical therapy....

She quoted that and said I'd made the statement several times. That's probably true. I don't pretend to understand why the house had to be competely cleaned in a matter of days, with as little help from me as possible (or so it seemed).

Oh, the better to be matyred....

Of course, she doesn't recall that most of the time, early on, whenever I can home early or stayed home an extra day to try to help, she inevitably started fighting with me about the situation -- spending energy on the fighting instead of letting me get on with pitching in around the house.

Nope. She's not likely to recall that....

Only how "she had NO choice, because she WAS EXPECTED / HAD TO or whatever, to clean the house and prepare to host and entertain my folks."

OTOH, I don't thing they expect any such thing.... hence my dilemma when she demands my absolute agreement / validation of her POV and her martydom....