Tuesday, June 5, 2007

What's really bothering M

After some several weeks of getting along fairly well....
and after spending a really nice vacation time together....

Well, she's immediately back to the troubled mind....

She shared with me a couple hours ago that she's "figured out what's going on with her...."

Apparently, she's ALREADY anticipating the challenge / emotional difficulties / pain / etc with my elderly parents coming for a couple weeks next month, as they usually do in the summer. The primary purpose being to see various caregivers that I trust. And to visit, of course.

She knows the rough timeframe, but not the specific yet (I just got that in my email and hadn't really sorted it out to share it....)

And, my granddaughter is to come to my state next month (I think it's July and not June) to visit various relatives, including Pops (me)

My plan with for the granddaughter's visit was / is to mostly keep my visits with her to day time (hooky from the office) and maybe a weekend, while my folks are around to help.

Anyway, M is ALREADY borrowing the emotional pain a full month in advance or so....

Bothering me for details that I have not had a chance to sort out just yet. Talking about "how disconcerting it is not to know anything...."
and expressing frustration about not being consulted about the plans, and on and on.


She has done this before. Which is what I began to react to almost immediately. The idea of having an emotional wreckage for the next 8 weeks.... is a bit much.

And it happened within 24 hours of returning from a wonderful vacation -- one in which SHE says, "I feel like we were just beginning to get back on track, and now these visits are looming..."

MY observation is that a couple other times where I took time off, to be with / work with her almost exclusively over all other responsbilities or interest -- resulted in the same feeling....

she's really only happy if she's the center of my universe.... and she hates sharing me or her living space and all....

SIGH!!!

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