The battle is initiated

11 p... Phone rings. It's M calling from her car. "Hello?" "Hello", I said.... M, "Yesssss......" "hello". "What are you doing, calling from the car?" "DDDUUUUUUHHHH...." "What are you doing?" call disconnects.....

I get up, could see the car taillights, get dressed, went on outside to deal with her.

Oh, but on my way, I find the reason for the banging. She'd sat on the stoop in the garage and banged a hole into the garage wall with a water bottle (I think). Bang marks all over. Hole punched through nearly a foot wide.

I didn't find my keys, looked in the wrong pocket on my way out....so, I thought she'd grabbed them. Went out to the car, opened the door, starting her (eyes were closed "sleeping"). Said,
"Where the hell are my keys?" "What are you doing out here?" and "Why did you punch a hole in the
garage wall?"

She correctly informed me she didn't have my keys, and I went back into the house. Got a change of underwear, my shave kit and my computer and reading materials and was getting ready to go elsewhere for the night, when she came back in.

So, then we had to go round for 1/2 hour or better. Whether I was going to leave, how dare I, I'll change the locks, don't ever talk to me again, on and on. Lot's about how abused and terrible her life is. All the usual.

I still only got slightly hot.... Not hugely angry.

finally began trying to withdraw to attempt, again, to go sleep.... heard the nasty remarks about how important "HIS" sleep is.... never mind she's insomnic. Offered again to go to the guest room. Again, insisted I not.

She came up sometime later. Seemed like she tried to disturb me a little. Not a lot. She went to fitful sleep. She was "sleeping" or staying quiet when I got up at 7:30. She's been awake / aware with the TV on for the last 45 minutes or so.....

She so doesn't understand what she's done to herself and this relationship by not seeking good effective treatment for her BPD and other conditions. Now I will do what I must do.