Last night, more good times

Where do I start. Well, I came home at an expected time in the evening, a bit earlier than she expected..... She was clearly not feeling well, and in a bad humor.... still....

But, for the most part she left me be until just after 10pm. Then, in violation of a clear boundary I have set (no serious matters of relationship conversation after 8 or 9 p) she starts in. I cannot remember all my sins enumerated.

She started, as I recall, weih a quiz as to whether I'd had an appt this week with my T. I said, yes. When? Monday. Well, that's interesting. What time? 1 or 2:00. That makes sense. (at this point I had a fair idea where this was headed....)

Then she started in about didn't I think / see the connection between my having that appt just before we tried to have supper together (a time that apparently ended up somewhat tortured). M figures I get withdrawn, yadayada, whenver I've been to see the T. I said, No, I simply didn't feel well and there's really no more to it than that...."

She started to press the point, and I said, "I'm not going to engage further in this conversation. You can continue if you choose, but I will not respond."

Well, she took that in. Paused, then started in on the sudoku conflict from the weekend. "Can you help me understand how it is on Saturday night you got royally pissed off, and on Sunday you were asking for my assistance with a Sudoku?? I just don't understand that at all..." I think I started to try and explain (in Mars/Venus terms) and she interrupted as is her wont -- I think. Anyway, it struck me badly and I erupted into an extremely angry state.

This was in part due to the subject, in part due to the boundary violation and in part due to the fact that even having this much of a conflict at this point, this late, was going to bother my sleep.

I erupted in fury. Stomped up the stairs. Back down again. Heard her make sarcastic "oh, here we go again" remarks (presuming I was going to up and leave the house).

She actually stayed mostly calm at this point. Which led me to point out that this angry state was what she was going for.....

Anyway, as I calmed, she did go on to express some of what was on her mind. "I'm going to relieve you of the burden of "fixing me" by leaving. Don't know when or where. Got to figure that out.... but I have to leave".

I just said, "Is this the part where I am supposed to ask you not to??"

Anyway, things flared up and down a little for a while longer, then I finally went to bed. Of course, when she came to bed, that was another story.