She's off balance??!!

From M, "I feel like I'm off balance all the time. I can't seem to do anything right..."

Talk about projection!! Wow.

This came in response to my attempt, as she was sitting sullenly nearby, to "show some appreciation". I had done a Sudoku in the best time ever for me.... She had helped me learn some stragegy....

So, I said, "Gosh, the strategies you showed be sure have helped. I solved a Sudoku tonight sooner than ever before."

M, though, being in a negative state had to recall the other evening when I first fired up a Websudoku with her sitting beside me.... I didn't happen to think about it...

But, unsolicited and unasked, she began to assist. Which at the time upset me. A man tends to want to ask for assistance, only asks if unavoidable.... and can be a little touchy about it if he's doing something he finds difficult or a challenge..... This is something she should understand, because SHE'S the one that started us both into the Mars / Venus books -- where some of those differences and reactions are identified and highlighted.....

Anyway, to my attempt to "show appreciation", she replied, "I still don't understand why you got angry with me one night over sudoku, and then asked for help later...(next time or whatever)"

Boy, does she not get it.... And SHE'S the one who insists that SHE researches to understand things.....