Saturday through Wed, we were in FL to visit. Got along well. "Connected" a bit. Of course, M had lots of my attention.... I was very available..... So, she was much happier....
Had a long travel day Wed, but still didn't fight.... BUT, I did make the mistake earlier in the day of riffing on the travails of the last outdoor craft show where M soaked herself with icy cold water on the second day of the show and stayed in a foul, foul mood for the day.... and beyond.
this was with some mutual friends.... just good natured and jocular. I also went into some of M's dirt-poor home situation.... I thought in an acknowledging and admiring way.... But, apparently I am not in touch with how "ashamed" she feels over her childhood.... "You practically referred to me as poor white trash...."
As I look back now, I'm uncertain how exactly I got into the whole business of her childhood situation... I think it started out with some observations I made about her genes and her looking little like her mom or her sis or brother, size-wise..... and it just rolled from there. Had I been in better touch with how ashamed having that touched upon would make her feel, I would agree that I had been terribly boorish. But, my recollection is that I was not in fact trying to demean or diminish her.
But, I am considering calling the lady whose house we were at to get her perspective and so I'll better know what, if any, offense I may have caused or committed.
Not remotely true, but it is how she feels......
Now, we're at a conference, testing whether that's a good idea.... Nope. She had the meltdown that I was afraid of.... More in the next message.
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