Well, she collected herself and came to the living room "to talk" a couple hours ago. Started out OK. Sorta. Then, of course, rapidly headed into a rehash of the many sins and troubles I've caused her.... I stayed really, really patient until it had been quite a while.
Then, she was about to start into the evergreen "all the sacrifice and effort she's put into my parents and my family and their visits....." and on and on.
I finally showed the least weary exasperation. Which, made her intensely angry!
Now, since, she's come back and forth with one and another of her hurts, offendedness and all.
It just goes on and on and on.
A little bit ago, she came down and made a statement about how, "I've asked several times about trying a different relationship therapist...and I might as well be talking to the wall."
I just looked at her. As often happens with partners of BPD people, we try to do couples therapy, "buy" that it is a "safe place" to express ourselves, only to find out otherwise in very short order. Time after time I had to pay for days after a session together.
No thanks.
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