I guess she makes her bed

and she'll have to lie in it, as they say.

Last night I thought ended peaceably. But, apparently, not for M. Of course, her friend alcohol was no help I'm sure.

Anyay, long story short, I went to bed by 10:30p. Thought from her remarks on the phone that she was tired and not long behind. But, I guess she got herself worked up. She went downstairs. Stayed there until well after midnight.

I started hearing odd noises, and then finally heard her irrigating her sinuses.

At just about 2:30 a, she came to bed. "You sleeping? You sleeping?" Eventually, I said, "Well, not now."

"I have a full blown sinus infection"

"mmmm. good thing you are going to the doctor's office on Monday, then. Or are you going to go to urgent care tomorrow?"

That apparently was insufficiently caring. "which tells me a lot, doesn't it. Tells me where I stand...."

So from 2:30 to 3:30 a.m., M had to act out in various ways and engage me numerous times. I got slightly not under the collar, but not so bad as to keep me from eventually getting back to sleep.

About the only defensive argument I mounted was to point out that my remarks about the doctor visit (nurse-prac) and urgent care and suggesting she get some sleep, WERE in fact, caring remarks.

"No they weren't. You were just brushing me off."

Again, I suggested sleep would be good....

SHE kept insisting she couldn't possibly sleep with her nose all plugged up. Then, finally fell off by about 3:30 a.m. Seemed to sleep through until about now.

During the negative interactions, she of course, had to remark of my mother. "Your mother hasn't said two words to me."

Well, gee, why would that be.....

Let's see. M avoids the folks at every turn. Has taken herself off to the hotel at the start. Will again for this weekend.

It occurs to me that the trip out of town for the couple of weeks would have been less hurtful by far than the behaviors that have been displayed with her staying here....

Everyone's on eggshells around her....

Wonder why mom is a little reticent. Hmmmm