The sh** she dishes out

Oh yeah... my favorite part [sarcasm on] was when, early in the conversation -- the basis of which was MY being too unfriendly or uncaring or whatever -- was when she "confirmed that you have meeting late in the day on Thursday??" (the day she's to come home).

Of course, that was TERRIBLE. Clearly I scheduled that on purpose.... Why ELSE would I have that meeting at that time?? Couldn't be that that was the best time for the committee? Couldn't be that it was unavoidable and related to a key part of my job. Nope. Clearly, it's primarily to DEPRIVE M OF MY PRECIOUS TIME.

Poor thing. I have other obligations than to just be at her whimsy, beck and call. Poor thing.


Can you tell, she is really making me deeply angry.... ??

She'll blame my mother and the visit... she'll never see her own culpability (an impossible thing for the BPD, I know) when the time finally comes....

and, again, I'm feeling like it is and has to come soon. Back to feeling like my personal and family welfare depend on moving on from this as a primary relationship.

too much negative energy. Too much effort has to go into trying to "have a relationship" when someone has the multitude of problems and issues that M does, with way too self-comprehension and too little effort to get better.

How long can any such relationship survive?? Certainly 14 years is a long time to be a partner with a BPD person....

Sorry she didn't have proper mother's love -- but, I cannot ever replace that.

Sorry she was dreadfully abuse, but I can't fix that. I can only TRY not to engage in any abuse, myself -- and even so -- and even though I know some of what she accuses me of as abusive is not -- she finds abuse in my word, actions, or inactions...

How long?