and some more

that I am recording as much for my own purpose and record as anything else.

The ideal parter for a BP is a codependent one whose identity boundaries
mingle with the BP's (I guess because some of their needs overlap).
Over the years the BP forces his will on his partner which results in
a family game that takes the part of the intimacy the BP is incapable of.
Falling out of the game makes you feel disoriented and lonely. Still, if you look
deep inside (inner child, adult or parent) you find that you have very
little to lose because you had very little genuine and authentic
personal relationship with your partner to begin with.

Do things you like. Meet with people who appreciate you. Learn to
love yourself as the person who is in this world to love and to be
loved. Learn that you are lovable even if you do not sacrifice
yourself meaninglessly on the altar of egoism resulting from his
illness. Realize that you are what you are only if you know where your
identity starts and where it ends.