Regrettable change

Well, I was chagrined today to find out that one of my "safety valves" is gone. Had a good, supportive lady friend (platonic) who had offered the use of her guest room if needed if I had to leave suddenly and crash for a few days or couple weeks.

The other day I showed interest in getting serious about that offer, and perhaps even renting the room for 2 or 3 months while dust was otherwise settling (when / if I were to leave my household).

(Interestingly, M clearly is contemplating the idea that she would be the one to leave -- but, that's mostly because she's thinking in terms of the long-term arrangement as to who would have to manage / maintain the house, as opposed to the short term arrangements that would occur early in a separation....)

Anyway, as my friend and I talked, I asked if her paramour would have any issues over my staying at her place. At first she said, no, he never comes to my house and he's stayed in contact with his ex-wives, etc, etc.....

But as we conversed, she decided she'd best talk with him, rather than have some unexpected surprise occur (like my suddenly staying at her place and THEN his finding out....).

And she did. Apparently, while I haven't talked with her in any detail.... the street doesn't run in both directions. All she said was that she'd talked with him, hadn't gone well (but hadn't caused any problems between them.) and that (as per our conversation) she did have to withdraw her offer.

Sigh.....

Well, it was nice while the offer was there. OTOH, I would have felt quite bad had I taken up the offer and THEN it caused problems between my friend and her lover.

Things will work out, some how, some way....