solitary confinement

OK, here's another bit of fuss from me to whomever may read this (maybe only me, since this is somewhat serving as a journal for me....)

I actually expressed a NEED recently.... Not elegantly, but I did so. A need for more quiet time / more time to myself on occasion. You see, I enjoy solitude. Don't need a steady diet, but I need to have some me time and some solitary time.

Well, a BP fears aloneness and loneliness is always just around the corner for them. SO, M has not been able to understand what I think was a reasonable need / request. That is, that when I need to have some quiet time -- some solitary time -- that I can absent myself from the room or house as required, without recrimination....

For years, I've felt like I either have to be at work, or at home, and my time and whereabouts have to be known at all times.... I've come to realize, that's a strait jacket that's not appropriate and not fair to me.

What I wanted, and expressed, was that on occasion if I don't want to be around the TV, or want it to be quiet, or have some alone time, that I take it -- and take the responsibility for going elsewhere in the house. Or elsewhere from the home.

BUT, in true borderline form, she's gone to the extreme. Leaving me be almost all of the time if I'm home. She insists on being elsewhere. She even checked the guide channel on the digital box with the main TV muted....

It's a totally unnecessary reaction, but typical.... and I don't see how I can really address it other than to let it blow over as it will eventually. /Pop